LOVE AGAIN

   Marriage is one of the greatest things we can do on Earth.

Mark 10:9 What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

            When a man and woman commit their lives one to the other, I would imagine neither of them are looking to divorce in the future. I would imagine they both are looking for a lifetime of memories. Unfortunately, life happens. One or the other becomes unsatisfied with the way the other is going and before you know it, they end up on an episode of Jerry Springer.

            It’s a sad day when a couple that was once in love with one another succumbs to Satan’s temptation to quit. But, instead of divorce, how does a couple mend hearts and love again? Sacrifice. Both parties must live a life of sacrifice. They must say, “Not my will but God’s will be done.” Sacrifice like our Saviour sacrificed, obediently. Learn to love like Jesus loves; unconditionally. Learn to forgive like Jesus forgives; limitless. Learn to compromise in the non-essentials. Do things together. When you sacrifice your will for the will of your spouse, you will begin to mend, heal, and love again!          

WHATEVER HAPPENDED TO, “UNTIL DEATH DO US PART…?”

Keeping our eyes on the Lord and being thankful for the spouse He has given, helps to protect us from divorce.

What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. Mark 10:9

In the past year, I have heard many couples facing a divorce. Some of them have been long time friends that I would’ve never thought would reach this tragic point. So what happened? What can we learn from them? What can I do to protect my relationship with my Saviour, with my wife, with my children, with those friends I have earned respect from?

I can keep focused on the work God has given me to do. Idle hands has been said to be the devil’s workshop. I have found this to be true in my life. When I “take a break” and sit down, the devil is right there with the temptations he is so good at. So get off the couch and stay busy for the Lord. 

I can keep my love focused on my wife. I am reminded of what Solomon told his son in Proverbs 5:18-20, “Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?” My satisfaction should be in spending time with my wife. Time in the bedroom, time on vacation, time holding hands in the park, time at the mall, time holding her close, time anywhere she wants to go… even when I really don’t want to.

I can be thankful for the wife God has given me. “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD. Proverbs 18:22” Being thankful goes beyond the bedroom. It’s being thankful for who your spouse is. The person they are becoming in the Lord and who y’all are becoming together.

Your marriage does not have to end in divorce but if it already has, your life isn’t over. Take the time to learn from and mistakes you may have made. Stay close to the Lord. Get busy serving the Lord. If the Lord so graciously sends you another spouse… thank Him for a second chance!